Define a real friend? We meet people through our lives right? We have those people who stay around for a lifetime and we have those who are here for a season or a reason. I never had a best friend(well actually my sister was my best friend) I was always the girl who just fit in with a girl and her group of friends. I was always got close with that one girl but her friends always either seem to have a slight problem with me and after a while I assumed they were just jealous. LOL! I was never the “territorial” type of friend I accepted everyone and thought everyone would just accept me. I would do the most for my friends like giving my whole check to help them pay their rent. Watching their kids, letting them borrow money, being there to listen when they had problems, always ready for whatever, always understanding, loving and caring. Even after picking up on the signs I would ignore them and give them the benefit of the doubt. But I learned the hard way about “friends”. Not everyone is your friend. Some people aren’t here to be a friend they could be here for the benefits and what they can use you for whether it’s helping them in many different ways or just for the popularity. Now, I’m not saying all people are like this because there is great people out who make great friends. I just know what to look out for when it comes to defining a real friend.

Ask yourself What is a great friend?

You have to be a great friend in order to know what a great friend is.

Are you a great friend? If not you need to work on yourself.

Don’t be judgements be understanding. Watch out for words like “oh you better than me because I would of…”

Be honest and be real. Sometimes the truth hurts but how can you get upset with someone being real and honest with you.

Be loyal. Support your friend. If you can be loyal to your boyfriend be loyal to your friend. Your friend should always be there for you when your boyfriend isn’t. But make sure your getting the same loyalty in return.

Motivate your friend and be encouraging. Who wants to be around someone who is negative all the time and never has nothing nice to say and just messes up the whole mood.

Be a good listener. Do not always make it about yourself. When they need a ear just listen but make sure when you need an ear they listen.

Help when you can but do not over extend yourself.

Be a good listener. Do not always make it about yourself. When they need a ear just listen but make sure when you need an ear they listen.

Never be in competition with your friend

Don’t be jealous if they seem to be doing more than you. You have to do more for yourself and don’t expect any handouts

If your in business then separate your business from your friendship. Or just don’t do business with friends.

Work through conflicts. If you notice after an argument they say the truth about how they really feel. That’s not your friend! If they use social media and an outlet instead of coming to you. That’s not your friend! If u catch the indirect comments. That’s not your friend!

The type of energy you put out in the universe is the type of energy you get back.

Published by Sincerely Shyann

I’m unapologetic, kind and caring.

3 thoughts on “Friends

  1. Hi Shyann 🙂

    What a GREAT post! I wholeheartedly relate to you. Your tips on what makes a “great friend” or, “true friend” is very helpful. Very wise. Thanks so much for writing this post.

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