Tips for moving on after a break up.

 

A break up can be very heartbreaking especially when you love hard and you’ve tried your best to make it work with the person you love. I recently went through a break up and it hit me hard because I thought we would grow old together. We loved but we also had many fights and this last fight escalated to far I was forced to let go. My heart sunk into my stomach and I cried, I became embarrassed and depressed. I blamed myself for failing my children and not being able to raise them in a two parent home. Then I realized everything happens for a reason and just because it didn’t work out doesn’t mean it was fault and it does not mean I failed as a person and a mother. I had to really get myself together. I still had to live life and be a mother to my kids. I had to accept it for what it was, let go and start to heal. I WANTED TO BE HAPPY AGAIN!!

STOP BLAMING YOURSELF.

  • TALK TO A CLOSE FRIEND.
  • LET YOUR BODY FEEL WHATEVER ITS GOING THROUGH.
  • CRY IT OUT.
  • GIVE YOURSELF A DAY TO SOB BUT ONCE THAT DAY IS UP, THATS IT! DO NOT CONTINUE TO FEEL SORRY FOR YOURSELF.
  • LOVE YOURSELF.
  • REMOVE EVERY MEMORY THAT REMINDS YOU OF THEM.
  • DO NOT FOLLOW EACH OTHER ON SOCIAL MEDIA.
  • BE CORDIAL FOR THE CHILD(ren) ONLY.
  • FORGIVE.
  • TALK TO GOD.
  • STAY POSITIVE.
  • STAY BUSY.
  • PRAY HARD.

 

ITS A HEALING PROCESS AND SOME DAYS YOU MIGHT FEEL LIKE BREAKING DOWN AND IT WILL GET TOUGH BUT IT WILL ALWAY BECOME EASIER TO DEAL WITH. ! STAND STRONG AND ALLOW YOURSELF TO HEAL!

-Sincerely Shyann

I had to be selfish!

I have alway been the one to do more for others than I’ve done for myself, it’s was plenty of times I’ve gotten frustrated with myself because I was so quick to offer help when I needed help myself. I was so quick to loving others unconditionally without loving myself first. I bit off way more than I could chew just because I wanted others to see the good in me and to feel appreciated because I knew what it felt like when I needed help and I had no one. I went on handling more than I could handle out of fear I would be blamed for helping them fall. I was literally bending over backwards for friends and family just to be accepted but then feeling unappreciated. Then I finally just got fed up because every time I needed help NOBODY was around. I learned a deep lesson just a few days ago and it helped me realize in the end all of have is myself. I have to love myself, take care of myself and do for myself. I had to be okay with saying NO. I had to be okay with the thought of being selfish but in a good way. I had to finally step up and take care of me first and I’m okay with being selfish.

-SINCERELY SHYANN